sO Positive
It is official. The bone marrows sleight of hand is real. O –ve is history. The future is bright and it is O +ve.
This could mean that;
Amita and I will have to get married again.
I will have to go back to NIT for my Bachelors and actually study this time around.
Amita will try to explain all of this to District of Motor Vehicles in Bangalore and get my driver’s license to reflect this change.
According to the doctor, this means the “engraftment” is official. And the esh brothers have more than a few things in common. The doctor, when he broke the news, told Amita that he is going to call me Suresh.
Shivers
The week started and ended with a shiver. I experienced some shivers evening of Oct 4th with a 99 degree fever. The previous infection, that happened a few weeks ago, made us endure one of the toughest nights in the hospital, started with a similar shiver and a 99 degree temperature that rapidly climbed to 104 degrees. This time, thankfully, the fever stayed within the 99/100 range. We did not have to get admitted into the hospital.
The penalty kicks continued – and I was not the one doing the kicking! Oct 12thsaw a repeat of the same event, excepting that the fever did not stop at 99 but climbed to 103.5 with the shivers. Together with the doctor, we were able to piece together the events of Oct 4th and 12th. Both times, the shivers happened within hours of a visit to the doctor and the hospital. I have something called the “Hickman Line” inserted into my right chest, into a main vein, for easy IV administration of medicines and drawing of blood for blood tests. A “stopsign” in every outing to the hospital is the cleaning of the Hickman line, which includes injecting some anti-coagulating agents into the tubes. There was something happening there that was triggering the shivering and subsequent infection. So, we came in for a day admission on Oct 11th and got the Hickman line removed. Am back at home 11th evening with no fever and feeling good.
There is a little GvHD (graft versus host disease) that the doctors desire. But like a good garlic dish, we want just enough and not too much. The doctor says I am doing great. I seem to be walking that thin high line
Sometimes we feel like we are in the middle of the ocean with waves coming in at us. We just need to roll with it and trust that these waves will get us to shore. We met a fantastic lady called Abla, from Oman. She exuded a enthusiasm that was so infectious (the only thing that is worth being infected by in the hospital).
Shivering into Awareness
It is revealing to see how the body and mind reacted to the shivers.
I froze when the first shivers started. The “past” flooded my present. And my mind projected into the future. JK (Krishnamurthi not Rowling!) says it beautifully when he says the “future is the past”. The mind feared a repeat of the past experience. It seemed so important to be aware of the process and not descend into this virtual abyss of fear.
I will try to trace the events that coursed through the body and mind.
The shiver was strong enough to register in my mind. All our experiences triggered by the external world seem to enter our internal world through our senses. Our senses need to be stimulated enough to register an experience. Some other examples in real life;
- Phone rings in a bar that is playing loud music. The ring does not even register in the mind because it is drowned in the louder music.
- Pain that was below a certain threshold did not even register when a strong pain killer was taken.
- Sometimes the phone rings, but it did does not register because my attention was somewhere else.
We can extend our imagination to:
- A match stick catching fire in a larger fire is not even noticed.
- The smell from a perfume stick gets lost in the stink from a nearby garbage dump or the excess fragrance from a stronger perfume stick.
The entry of an experience into our body seems to start with the registration process by our senses of external stimuli. The manifestation of this registered experience passes through multiple steps;
step 1. Our senses registers stimulus that has the strongest sensory impact and the attention of the mind. Clearly my shivers were strong enough to register.
step 2. The senses, upon registering the event, triggered a series of psychosomatic reactions that are worth tracing.
In general, once the stimulus is registered, mind with its multiple belief systems kicks in by comparing, opining, judging, critically evaluating, regretting, celebrating etc.. Usain Bolting into the future – a future that is either a desirable future or a fearful one.
In this particular experience, my mind compared the current “shiver” to past experiences – creating psychological time – a future based on the past. A future was formed, where my mind created an inevitability of an exact replay of the past infection, with the same intensity.
step 3. The result of the sensory assimilation are emotions such as; anger, fear, happiness, pride, jealousy etc.. Clearly, in my case, for this experience, the predominant emotion was fear that occurred due to the projection of a past unpleasant experience into the future. There was also anger at being dished out this stuff. I threw the thermometer away when i saw the mercury defying gravity.
step 4. Finally the above emotions register in the body as feelings; such as, sweating, butterflies in the stomach, low energy because of reduced blood flow, high blood pressure, cry, laughter, endorphins, T cells, adrenaline, etc.. In my case, for this experience, the feeling was decreased blood flow etc..
This “ladder of experience” starts with the body through sensory input and ends with feelings in the body; with its steps traced by the mind and its belief systems and emotions. The ladder of experience can turn into a “spaghetti of experience” when associative memory, triggered by any of the steps, cascade several past experiences into one another.
Windows into Peace
The good news is that every one of the above steps in the ladder offers us a window into the “creative space” that can stop the vicious reactive patterned cycle.
For starters (garlic bread before the spaghetti !) , my mind disputed the thoughts that were cycling through. The disputations of reactive “step 2” thoughts went like this;
“it does not have to get as bad as last time”, “just because it happened once does not mean it has to repeat itself’, “what is the worst scenario in case it does happen – one week in the hospital’, “What is the use of all this worrying; it will only make it worse’ etc…
These “disputations” opened up a window that reduced the velocity of reactivity. They lessened the speed of thoughts and also changed the direction of thinking by stopping the relentless flow of the past to the future. Of course, solving the problems of the mind with the same tools (mind/thought/memory) that caused the problem is hazardous. There is a danger that, through associative memory, the mind will wander back into the past or conjuring some imagination.
Once I got some space, Step 1 and 4 offered a critical window; my mind was able to observe the sensations of the body, in this case shivering, and just stay with it. No mental commentary. The simple process of observation of the sensations in my body was so cooling to everything. I slowly slipped into an integrated body and mind that stayed in the present moment and arrested the flow of the psychological time – the flow from the past to the future. This avoided so much suffering.
My journey, over the last 10 years, to integrate my mind and body has been pivotal to attaining this rest during these mind-storms. I recall the many “body scan” meditations that I have done that acutely observes body sensations and just lets it be. I have done 1 minute to 1 hour meditations; Vipassana to Jon Kabat-Zinn. They have all been amazing to me. Vipassana is the PhD of this technique; i share a video by Jon Kabat-Zinn.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SHVwkoQPPKc body scan meditation by Jon Kabat-Zinn
Please keep us in your prayers as we head to shore.
Sharing
I read this beautifully written article about West Indies T20 cricket by David Hopps, it is adorned with marvellous use of punctuations. I took me back to my days in Boston and Boston Globe, when I used to devour the sports writing by Bob Ryan and Dan Shaughnessy. Those were the days when the Red Sox and Patriots were the eternal bridesmaids to New York teams. I used David’s article to explore with Ashwin and Amita about use of punctuations etc..
http://www.espncricinfo.com/icc-world-twenty20-2012/content/story/585733.html
For the intellectually inclined, there is a lovely site you can visit;
http://www.aldaily.com/
The above recommendation came from Satya “Becker” Prabhakar. And the following insight about the site from Gopi Kallayil;
For 14 years now Evan Goldstein and Tran Huu Dung have been producing this daily labor of love dedicated to some very high quality and erudite thinking. They are both based in NZ, update it 6 days a week, and draw from great literary sources around the world. Their human curation is excellent. A recent example being Life after TED from FT by April Dembosky.